How to be happy, i want to be happy?

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  • #408
    Monica
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    how shall i feel happy. I don’t know….some tell me i am sick selfish…i just feel unhappy..every moment…i dont watch porns..i hate porns…when i see porns i feel violent..i feel like killing people…when i see people happy..i feel jealous and i want that something bad happens to them…i have a bf…i love him tremendously…but i forgot when was the last time i said him “i love you” from heart…i said just as a routine…..i feel sunk all the time…even when i be happy i feel something is wrong…i mean dont feel happy when i am happy…and…i dont know..its happened for so long time…i cant find myself…i forgot how i used to be…even happy memories make my heart ache….i am miserable…i forgot when i had a sound nights sleep…always some bad memories haunt my mind…i cant forget them…i am scared of my boyfriend…and…i dont know..i scared of unpredictable nature of life….i felt i was ready to face anything …but now i feel i can t face any problem…i hate doctors..i cant go to doctors…i feel indecisive about everything…i feel so lonely when i am scared…i want to be happy…just for a day…i WANT TO FEEL HAPPY…i cant bear this…whats happening to me…i have no friends to whom i can tell…i dont feel confident ..am i selfish..?..help me..please…

    • This topic was modified 2 years, 10 months ago by Monica Monica.
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    Clea
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    There is a phrase that people are like stained glass – when the sun is shining outside, it is easy for them to show all the brightness. But when clouds cover the sky, they should light up themselves from inside. So this is what you should do – light up yourself. Say “I love you” from the heart, make a list of things you are grateful for in your life. Find something that you can do with passion (it will be double great if it is something creative) and help other people. You cannot even imagine that you can change somebody’s life in a better way! Life is beautiful and you should see it. And if you don’t see it, maybe it is time to change something, to move further.

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    Molly
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    awww.. poor you, hun. u sound really miserable. reading this makes me feel sorry for you… maybe there are something you are sad about? i mean there must be a knot inside your heart that makes you feel sad. the way to make you happy…umm…do whatever you’d love to do, do what makes you happy, forget the past, move on! meet new people, hang out with friends, go to the beach, there are a lot of things that make people happy.
    do you have some sorta goal you havent accomplished and you wanted to? if so, GO FOR IT! there was a time when i feel miserable every single day, and then something happened, that makes me happy. i think maybe, my friends… Well I dont know hunnie, but hold on. :) Wish you the very best.

    #434
    Milka
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    I would say it’s depression. The best way would be to colsult a pro who would definitely be able to diagnose your problem and help you. It’s difficult to handle this state by your own. it’s kinda cool if you do not watch porn having a gf, but only if you feel you don’t want/ need to rather than just refusing it. Depression or the feeling of being unhappy is difficult thing to solve, but possibe, trust me, I went through this period. Maybe there’s an issue from your past that is so traumatic that makes you feel unhappy. Learn to handle the problem. if you cannot do it by yourself, please consult a specialist. Try to find one thing that you are good at and practice it. Spend more time with your family, if they make you feel better. Exercise! It will definitely make you feel good, although the beginnings are always hard. Take a peace of paper, a pencil and answer these questions:
    1. When was the last time I was happy?
    2. Why was I happy during that time? (Try to think og it carefully)
    3. What is my best childhood memory?
    4. What is different now? (What changed? This may open- up your mind a little and help you decide).

    #443
    Kate
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    …i believe to be happy in this life a person should do what comes from their heart, what they love and enjoy, another words they should always follow their dream no matter what, and no matter whoever likes it or not, i’ve learned from the experience that sometimes even very close people don’t believe in you, but it shouldn’t stop you from doing what you love and living a life that you want to live. the hardest thing to do is to find ‘this’ what you really really like, what you have passion for, what excites you, what you are interested in and then have the courage to go for it… …or speaking in ‘down to earth’ language – develop your skills in it, get education, experience, find people who do what you’d like to do, ask questions, and learn, learn, learn.) it seems like it’s a big deal but it’s not.) …thinking big and acting small, one little step at a time, and feeling grateful for the results (however small) and for the opportunity!

    #446
    Alice
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    It is better to go find a friend to talk with instead of trying strangers on the internet. That said; Think of someone you know that seems pretty happy about life. How would you describe their attitude? Are they kidding themselves? Are they ignoring the ugly truth about life that’s right in front of their eyes and pretending that some happy fantasy world that exists only in their heads is real? Well, guess what. That is exactly how every happy person in the world acts. And the really strange thing is that it’s OK. Because the reason that you are unhappy is that you have constructed a fantasy world just as complete and just as removed from the “facts” as the Pollyanna imaginings that you so despise in those happy people. Reality is in fact neither good nor bad, it is a very plastic inkblot sort of thing that can be bent and twisted in many directions depending on your beliefs. WHAT! you say? What about THE TRUTH? Well, that’s a complicated question and it gets into the meaning of life bit that we haven’t gotten to yet, but suffice it to say that what is REALLY going on is so strange, so complex, and so far beyond our everyday understanding, that it bears no relationship to what you think of as “reality”, “truth”, or “reason”. Good and bad, happy and sad, these are notions that you are imposing on the world around you.

    #496
    Bridget
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    Happiness is feeling good about who you are. We’re all peacocks, and we need to figure out which colours to show. A lot of it comes from accomplishing something, any small challenge that helps you find some self-esteem. I practise mindfulness and that helps me. Don’t go with the crowd, or what’s expected. For me, sometimes it’s about finding a quiet place where my brain can settle down, and not apologising for it; other times it’s drinking martinis. Much of what we know about how to be happy comes from studies that use big questions about how satisfied we are with life in general. In fact, we should be paying more attention to our experiences, moment to moment. These experiences can capture the richness of our daily lives, which includes the purpose and futility we feel as well as more “emotional” states of pleasure and pain.

    #602
    Sarah
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    I should say that you can have a neurosis, dear! But i am not a doctor, so i can not say the diagnosis…But for me, you are in big trouble and you should see the specialist, may be psycholog, but may be psychiatrist…I don’t want to hurt you any more, but i am really afraid about you, i hope you don’t think about suicide? :negative: If yes, you should see psychiatrist immediately!
    May be, he will advice you to take antidepressants or sedutive pills for some period of time. You should not joke with it, honey! Prolonged depressions are very dangerous for your psychological, social and also physiological condition…So, please, don’t delay the visit to doctor!

    #670

    Daria
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    No matter what kind of person you dreamed about and which are aiming for the ultimate goal of all of us – happiness. But always there is something that separates us from this one dream, and that “something” – we ourselves, or rather, our limitations, which are built around the years, and as a concrete wall fence off us from the happy life.
    Accidentally or on purpose, every day we limit ourselves in something, hiding from life in some of its aspects, and if one day these barriers will fall, which will be an amazing life.

    #722
    Ana
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    i know it for sure that even if you have some problems you have to enjoy your life and do not worry about all the problems. of course you have to fight with them but you do not have to forget about yourself . all the problems will go but you do not have to lose your hope you just have to hope for the best and be ready for everything. try not to concentrate on your problems, just think about good things . i think that the good idea is to take a new hobby or to visit a new country it may really inspire you and help you forget about all your problems. everything the best .

    #766

    Donna
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    Many women feel unhappy because of the excess weight. Really easy to get rid of him, observing proper diet and doing moderate exercise 2-3 times a week. Avoid starchy foods, sweets and fried, from the diet helps pohudetfastfuda, consume more fruits and vegetables, drink plenty of pure water, and the change will not wait: you become slimmer, the skin becomes smooth and elastic, will disappear fatigue, shortness of breath and swelling. Believe me, the rejection of vkusnyashek is such great changes!More and more thoughtful read. Choose useful books, not shockers, contaminating brain. This may be a special literature, which will allow you to be more successful in your career, or benefits for self-development and motivation that will teach you to live in harmony with itself and served the ideas for future directions.

    #791
    Mila
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    you know i think that every of us shall be happy.i had very difficult period in my recovery life and that is why i was often irritated and annoyed. now i think that all worries were just without any reasons. now i am feeling very good, of course not light but still fresh. although not much time passed after i feel much better. i really hope that everything was no done in vain. it was a big stress for me to go through it and it took me a lot of time to prepare for the surgery morally. and now when i have done it, i just can not lose hope that it is not helpful. i am sure that in a month or so i would feel fresh and light. now i just try to be a happy person.

    #844
    Apple
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    I think that you sound really miserable. reading this makes me feel sorry for you… maybe there are something you are sad about? i mean there must be a knot inside your heart that makes you feel sad. the way to make you happy.
    do whatever you’d love to do, do what makes you happy, forget the past, move on! meet new people, hang out with friends, go to the beach, there are a lot of things that make people happy.
    do you have some sorta goal you havent accomplished and you wanted to? there was a time when i feel miserable every single day, and then something happened, that makes me happy.

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